Grief Graffiti

I don’t usually remember my dreams, possibly because I have to take an aid to sleep, but I’ve had a few amazing dreams/visions of Tristan where it felt so real! In her book, “Journey to Healing-A Mothers Guide to Navigating Child Loss”, Lisa Boehm says:

“Sleeping is a state where our ego (the logical part of our brain) isn’t telling us what’s true or believable like it is when we are awake. This leaves us in a space where our loved ones can easily communicate with us. You will know you have had a visitation dream if you wake up after the dream and it feels like they were just standing beside you. Spirits are energy and that energy can be sensed. “The fact they came to you is a sign in itself and shows that love never dies. “Ask your loved one for a dream! Yes, ask! Before going to sleep, spend time thinking about your child or loved one and ask him or her to come visit you in your dream state.”

~Lisa Boehm

Come to me in my dreams, and then

By day I shall be well again!

For so the night will more than pay

The hopeless longing of the day.

Come, as thou cam’st a thousand times,

A messenger from radiant climes,

And smile on thy new world, and be

As kind to others as to me!

Or, as thou never cam’st in sooth,

Come now, and let me dream it truth,

And part my hair, and kiss my brow,

And say,

My love why sufferest thou?

Come to me in my dreams, and then

By day I shall be well again!

For so the night will more than pay

The hopeless longing of the day.

~ Matthew Arnold, The Longing